Personal Development

HOW MUCH EFFORT DO WE GO FAR ON SELF-CARE?

INTRODUCTION

 

We are all occupied with so many things around us and we often take ourselves last of all priorities. Some of us think it is okay but it is not. When you beyond seeing yourself every day with your unhealthy day to day routines, then your energy is wasted. Self-care is the most neglected issue and is overlooked by many of us. I came to learn about this more and more becoming a mom and adulting in life. Are you ready for a realising the biggest change in your life? I will walk with you hand in hand.

“Do something every day that is loving toward your body and gives you the opportunity to enjoy the sensations of your body.” ~Golda Poretsky

 “Your breathing is your greatest friend. Return to it in all your troubles and you will find comfort and guidance.” ~Unknown

 

How do we see things when situations get overwhelming? What are the methods helping you cope with everyday stress and what hinders you to make yourself your top priority? I have failed so many times cracking techniques by just keep on trying and repeating wrong patterns of solutions. I thought I was on the right track of improving my life caring for everyone and I am outwardly giving myself hundred percent to everyone around me. It came out to be not a healthy option for living a balanced life that would, in the end, will result in a happy person in me. Oftenly, I get too tired and I would see myself getting back again to the routines that have cost me nothing but stress by simply putting everyone around me first before me.

“In dealing with those who are undergoing great suffering, if you feel “burnout” setting in, if you feel demoralized and exhausted, it is best, for the sake of everyone, to withdraw and restore yourself. The point is to have a long-term perspective.” ~ Dalai Lama

“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” 
― C. JoyBell C.

Selfcare
HOW MUCH EFFORT DO WE GO FAR ON SELF-CARE?

 

What is Self-Care?

Well, what it is for and for who is it really? Does everybody in need of self-care? Yes. Self-care is a deeper connection to yourself more than just what others see as you are. It is being able to connect with the inner voice that would lead you to a healthy mental ability. Towards that you take care of your body then comes yourself in an optimized function you can do. This following are all connected:

Physical fitness is not only one of the most important keys to a healthy body, it is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity. -John F. Kennedy

  • Body
    • Your eating habits
    • Do you exercise?

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”  –William James

  • Mind
    • How do you nourish your mind?
    • Why is it good to develop good habits?
    • Why should you avoid stress?
    • Toxic people + Toxic situation = Toxic feelings

When I admire the wonders of a sunset or the beauty of the moon, my soul expands in the worship of the creator.- Mahatma Gandhi

  • Soul
    • How do you listen to your inner voice?
    • Your authentic feeling
    • Self-foundation
    • Your peace
    • Your faith and beliefs

On my upcoming Ebook training, I would deeply discuss with you all the connection of this three and why they are important. The question is are you taking care of these 3 aspects of your life. Oftel times, Mind and Soul are misled to be switched to their function. With sub-points that I have written down together, we will answer the work that would lead you to the right answers and how to begin your new life. I would give you an honest example and how I did became strong in this area:

Toxic people + Toxic situation = Toxic feelings

I would like to share one personal experience that I had. I care for too many people outside the circle that I really should care about. Meaning my mistake is I did not listen to my inner voice, maybe because I am tired, stress, have a bad diet and I just continue to be nice everyone. People saw this as an opportunity to take advantage of me by playing with my trust and the real thing is they are not concerned to me as I am concerned to them. They just waste my time to engage with me, have a chit-chat about life and most women are lovely when to me when they want to spend time eating with me or shopping. I don’t have the “I don’t feel like socialising with you, because…” I just threw it out a hundred percent and nothing has left for me when I was:

  • Judged
  • Been the subject of gossip
  • Taken advantage and used
  • Hurt
  • Cried

“For crying out loud, stop comparing and start living! And you’ll be happier with your life, I guarantee. This is crucial: the most difficult thing in the world is to be who you are not. Pretending and trying to be someone else is the official pastime of the human race. And the easiest thing in the world is to be yourself. Be happy. Live! There must be a reason why God made you tall or short or fat or thin or bumpy all over. Love who you are!”- Bo Sanchez

I realised that there is such thing us, everyone’s not your friend, and everyone who is nice to me, is not as authentic as I am. But before I even realised it I was broken-hearted, reaped off crying because of disappointments. I should have avoided having the following:

  • Attachment
  • Expectation

I could listen to my inner carefully, which have developed in years of experiences with so many different people. This is your cognitive mind telling you to decide well who are the right people to stay in your life. The longer you want. I don’t believe in disposable relationships but people they go. What went wrong? I gave them everything. That’s it because you gave them everything. How can we avoid them going? By simply not letting them into your life. Guarding your heart, emotion with your right decision making by who are you having coffee with, making business with. By that, your mind works well, on good working together with your inner voice, your intuition. For some people, it is a gift. But for most of us, we have to develop it. Day to day until you come to the point that I care for my self first, I love my self for saying no to that party I really don’t want to be, do a business proposal that can cost me my time, energy. Saying no without regrets.

FOR WHO IS THIS PROGRAM?

Going deeply into the Ecourse would take us to answer, what kind women have we became? How far do you care for your self more than putting on your makeup, showering, putting clean socks? We will deeply all together and we will dig into our hearts, what are your possibilities of becoming the woman you want to be. We are going to discuss your habits, your time management, your relationships, how you handle stress and so many more subjects that affect you on caring for your self first. The step by step self-care chart and worksheet we will answer. What hinders you to the perfection of being open to the voice inside you. This is not self–doubt but tapping your power to have better results in your everyday challenges. Are you single, a Mom, with a partner? I have specially manage to prepare everything for each type of women you are on how you could simplify and get your awaited answer.

Well now my dear, you have seen the introduction of why I wanted to share the improvement I had by simply applying self-care for my daily life. Here it is a sneak peak of my FREE course:

Stay in touch for the FREE COURSE that I am going to announce very soon! I hope you are as excited as I am. I would be updating you all on what is next and when is the exact date of the launched. It would definitely be for the Women’s Month. So, I am eyeing the first week of March. How to subscribe and everything would be also an update.

 

 

 

I’m a Mom, a wife, and a home-builder, key-note speaker. I write about personal development for women, motivational articles out from my daily experiences, from the past and today. I believe in life simplicity, friendship, and love. I have decided how to be happy every day through writing, there are so many values I have learned and still is learning. Sharing is caring, so if you would find my articles helpful-spread the love!

20 Comments

  • Julie Plagens

    I do put off myself until last. I try to meet everyone else’s needs first. A big problem for moms. Makes me realize I need to fdo some stud for me, too.

  • D

    Hi there, I am guilty of this myself. I have always learned to help others and I also believe it is in my nature to do so. It wasn’t until recently I started to look after myself more and by reading your article on the matter I am so glad I started to appreciate myself and take care of myself. I must say it is a process though. Thank you for sharing.

    D xo, from Live Dream Create – D

  • jess

    This really hits home, I have just started realizing how much I need self care. It is very hard to work it into your day when you have a huge list of things you need to get done. Sometimes I still put my self care aside because I still think other things are more important. ( something I need to work on).

  • Edwin Prasetio

    Doing this for self-care is great: compliment someone else. Doing a kind thing for someone else is a good way of spreading positive energy and feeling that positive feedback returned to us immediately uplifts us emotionally.

  • Hannah Denton

    This is so important! Such an amazing post, I’m going to take some of these tips on board, starting from now!

  • Dee Jackson

    This was a great post. I did a similar one a few weeks baxk because I believe that self care is so important. Thank you for reminding me of why it is so essential.

  • Miljana

    I always try to choose one thought that is better in some way (even though if it means betters for just a little bit). So inspiring! I loved reading this article.

  • Nisha

    Self care is often neglected in mostly women! Mothers are effected the most. They give their best even when sick. Self care is a must as you said 🙂

  • Kat J

    I think most people, mums and dads especially, always end up putting themselves last. I have just realised that I was burning out and I needed to have some space to care for myself also. I find my self care options are not always the typical ones though, I spent 8 hours yesterday decluttering my wardrobe… Sounds like a lot of peoples nightmare, but I felt amazing afterwards!

    Self care is so imortant. Thanks for sharing.

  • Kat

    This really hits home. I always put myself last and really need to do a better job at taking care of myself! I love how you point out the importance of not only body, but mind and soul as well.

  • LaToya

    Self care is so crucial to our well being. This year my goal is to take time to do something for myself at least twice a month. So far I’m doing great with this goal.

  • Chelsae

    I made it a goal this year to make sure to take some time a care for myself, whether it be daily or weekly. It’s so important for people to take caren of themselves so they can continue helping others.

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